The Story of My Not-So-White but Very Red Lace-y and Gold Sparkle-y Wedding Reception (Part I)

So, how does one write about such a big, once in a lifetime (hopefully! ;)) event such as a reception for a wedding? i’ve had the hardest time getting started on this blog today because i feel i need to capture all that the day was, but have feelings of “what if i CAN’T, like, what if my words CAN’T capture it??”. it’s a daunting task, one that has been weighing on me for the past week and a half since the party, but i’ve decided to just forge ahead and simply write whatever’s in my heart. i don’t think i can go wrong with this method, can i? we shall see, won’t we 😉

Well, to sum it up, it was a beautiful day. A beautiful and fun-filled, family & friends oriented day full of music that i will always & forever remember. And was it perfect? well, for me it was! because my main goal was to create a lifelong beautiful memory, and to have a BALL, and that certainly got accomplished!! That was what was at the top of my list, and a BIG check next to that!!

Well, just because i decided to focus mainly on fun, music and memories, didn’t mean that i was in a state of denial about the things that were less than perfect. i wasn’t being a pink flamingo with my head buried in the sand about it. because being that way in general doesn’t really get you very far either. i was aware of everything that didn’t go right, i just chose not to let it bother me. hmmm, life lesson here? yes, maybe this is an attitude that i (we all) can capture and apply to our lives in general? nothing’s ever going to be perfect, but you can still create something MARVELOUS, just based on your attitude!!

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Anyway, because i decided it was going to be an amazing day, PERIOD, do you think i freaked out that my hair wasn’t looking too hot at all on the day i’m supposed to look the most beautiful in my whole life? no, i didn’t sweat it. i focused on what WAS right, and that was my outfit! Although the pictures aren’t available just yet, my dress was all gold with red lace over it, with a short puffy skirt and a red tutu underneath. my sparkly pale gold strappy heels were perfect with it, and Joseph bought me the most STUNNING, sparkly gold & white gold necklace, that completed the outfit. So i felt like a princess!! 😀

AND when the beautiful canvases i ordered to show everyone got delivered to us the day AFTER the party, did i freak? no, i didn’t sweat that either. i just told myself (and Joseph) that i would simply display them on my blog!! so here is a shot of our beautiful canvases being shown for the first time 😉

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The first photo is the first day we hung out, all the way back in 2007 (although we met in ’06), where he made me a ring (that fit perfectly!) out of a dollar bill and placed it on my finger. i guess he knew he’d marry me from day one! the second is the day he proposed, and the third is when we got married in our living room <3

so there, i got to feel like a princess AND show the canvases after all!

i also got to show a lot of our empty wine bottles that are scattered across our place. if you watch some of my youtube videos, they are in the background a lot. they all mark significant or memorable times we had while drinking the wine. i have written on every single one of them in gold, the date and the occasion. or sometimes it’s from just an ordinary day (i find magic in the ordinary!), such as once when we just enjoyed sitting outside on the first warm day after winter. on that bottle it says, “beautiful moments is what life is all about”. all the bottles mark wonderful memories from times gone by, and i wanted to share them somehow. soooo, i filled the bottles halfway with water, bought long stem flowers, stuck them in and put them at the center of all the tables! the one that ended up on our table was the champagne bottle from our living room wedding ceremony 🙂

one of the most important things that was so RIGHT about the party was the music. There were wonderful performances and words by friends &amp; family, and i got to perform as well. and one of the most magical things for me (there were many!) that i was so grateful for was a song that came to me fairly easily and quickly, one i wrote called “Wedding Song”. i’ve always known i’d want to sing a composition of mine specifically written for my wedding DURING my wedding, but never quite said it out loud in case the song didn’t come to me. but it did! but more on that later (and i’m also planning a video of it soon!)

of course all the music made everything magical for me <3 AS did the wine, and there was plenty of both! But all that is a whole other blog, part deux to this one, to be exact 😉 and i haven’t even gotten started on the square dancing and the crazy things i supposedly did that i don’t remember very clearly but only heard about, after one too many glasses of wine! so hopefully i will see you when my next blog comes out, and the pictures should be with me by then too, so hopefully if i like them, i will share! see you at my next blog!! 😉 😉 <3

read part 2 here: http://kiyomimusic.com/blog/29/part-2-of-the-story-of-my-not-so-white-but-very-red-lace-y-and-gold-sparkle-y-wedding-reception/

view wedding celebration pics here: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10153162123800160.1073741833.88115085159&amp;type=1&amp;l=e931851b09

How To Get Through the Craziness of Planning a Wedding Party, Using Creativity! <3

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So, the final days before what is supposed to be one of the biggest days of my life! …and i’m stressing out 🙁  It’s the reception that goes with our impromptu but lovely marriage we had in our living room last november.  a celebration we are determined to have the most wonderful time at, regardless of what is going on.  but i have this knowing feeling it will be the most beautiful ceremony, and usually when i have a knowing feeling, it tends to turn out that way! 😉

one of the reasons among others i didn’t want an enormous celebration, was because i didn’t want to get stressed over the little details of trying to create something “perfectly perfect”, flawless, and ultimately not really me.  (for i am definitely not perfectly perfect, but perfectly imperfect, as Sark would say!)  i wanted to focus on what was important to me, and have the energy to enjoy our day.  however, we were thrown for a loop with some very unexpected disappointments in dealing with some family and it has been taking a toll on both of us.

it has caused us much stress and heartache, so much so that i nearly cancelled the entire thing twice. but i have come to the conclusion that we have the power to make it the best day regardless of the circumstances.  and i’ll say it again, WE HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE IT THE BEST DAY!  and this goes for every day of life, as well!

so last night, as i wrote a heartfelt but honest email to a new family member, i decided that as soon as i finished it, i would let all the hurt and anger just fly away, and focus on us, because that is what this day is supposed to be about.  and i will let the words of Dr Seuss comfort me, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”. i will also take what my older sister said to me about one of my headaches, “why don’t you focus not on the people that won’t be there, but the people that will be there?”  isn’t it strangely wonderful how the right words will come your way when you need them?

and i realize what important advice this is, because it’s true.  the people who will be there, we are so incredibly grateful for, and they are the ones that matter.  and the people who can’t legitimately make it to the event, we will miss them but we love them and appreciate them.  we also know they will be here in heart.  but those the closest to us who disregarded it completely and worse, threw fire at us RIGHT before the party for unrelated and unjustified things, that is what WAS difficult.  (notice the caps, i am moving on!! ;)) anyway, back to my point.  i am such a lucky girl to have such amazing family and friends who will be there.  every one of them is precious to us, and we are lucky to have them celebrate our day with us.

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It will be a celebratory day full of music, food, wine (my favorite!! ;)), square dancing, and love.  i still have a crazy number of things to do still, but i’m now enjoying the process.  and for some wonderful reason, i’ve found myself with an overwhelming amount of creative energy as well, and have been writing sporadically, while trying to rehearse some music, and trying to do a million other things including finding the perfect dress!  and luckily, after trekking through a ton of stores and nearly pulling my hair out, i found the perfect dress 🙂  i envisioned what i wanted in my head, i set out to hunt for it and hunt for it i did, and i found it

so yes, i am a lucky lady 😀  i have love, i have family, i have friends, i have music, i have writing.  and i want to especially thank music and writing right now, because i have been at my keyboard, singing, creating, for the past few days, and music has kept me company and brought light to my heart when i desperately needed it.  and writing, with it’s dependable ability to calm me down and bring me clarity, has done exactly that when i needed it.  so i thank the creativity angels out there for helping me out, once again <3

and now i think it may be finally time to celebrate!!  well at least in a few days it will be! 😉

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ps – i’m also lucky because now i have these adorable new emoticons that Joseph created for me, working nonstop for the past couple of days.  am i being showered with gifts, or what?? 😉